Why I’m Still Married, Part II

Why I’m Still Married, Part II

Remember yesterday when I told you about my right-bran-thinking/left-brain-talking husband with those “uncomfortably long pauses” between awkward statements and heartfelt, fuzzy words? Well, what I didn’t mention was that those long pauses often extend past his speech and into his physical reactions to things.

Case in point: A couple of hours ago I was heading into a classroom to teach a class, and I saw my husband down the hallway walking and talking with one of his students. I perked up and waved at him like a ten year-old.

No reaction.

I waved a second time when I was sure he saw me, only this time I waved much more fervently.

Still no reaction.

My old friend, “Benefit of the Doubt” kicked in.

What’s his problem? I know he’s legally blind, but with glasses his sight is corrected to eagle vision quickly gave in to I don’t get this, but I’m guessing there’s some reasonable explanation for it.

I went into the classroom, literally pictured myself taking this bothersome little issue and throwing it in the trash, and then greeted my class.

A minute or two later, my husband walked in the classroom, and gave me a big hug and kiss. He said he was praying for me because he knew from our conversation this morning that I felt nervous and somewhat anxious about teaching today.

So why didn’t he wave back?


Who knows? But I’ll take a hug and a kiss over a wave anytime.


Sherry Boykin

Sherry Boykin, the founder of Faith and Tales, is a storyteller and chronic believer in the power of faith narratives to change lives. She uses biblical and personal accounts to help women move beyond their obstacles, glean fresh perspectives on life, and to live differently as a result. Her experiences in urban and suburban ministries, Peruvian Amazon jungle missions, long-term singleness, marriage and family, and men's dorm-living shape her life and provide a colorful backdrop from which to share the Word of God. Sherry is the author of But-Kickers: Growing Your Faith Bigger Than Your But and she has been interviewed for articles in Time, The New York Times, and Better Homes and Gardens.

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