When a Wilde Man Weeps

When a Wilde Man Weeps

Just visualize this true story as you read it aloud:



A famous man lives a double life. While married with two children, he falls in love with a younger man and enters into a sexual relationship with him.



The famous man lavishes the younger man with every whim of the young man’s heart, and the famous man later describes their intense union as the fruit of that love “which cannot speak its name.”


Irate and unmanageable, the young man’s father publicly exposes the famous man as a sodomite which prompts the famous man to sue the father for libel. But when numerous witnesses of the famous man’s public exploits are lined up to testify against him, the famous man is advised to drop the libel charges.


Soon thereafter, the famous man is arrested, tried, and found guilty of sodomy and public indecency. He is sentenced to two years of hard labor. Prison life is harsh and isolating, and ravages the famous man’s health.


In the first of his three prison placements, the famous man, like all the inmates, is allowed only two books for reading: The Holy Bible, and John Bunyan’s allegory, The Pilgrim’s Progress.


The famous man has a spiritual renewal.


He apologizes to the young man, and describes his former self as arrogant, vain, and ethically degraded. And he is so excited about his spiritual renewal–his redemption, that he writes to a religious organization involved in evangelization and ministry, and asks to participate in a six-month spiritual retreat.


The organization refuses him.


The famous man weeps.


When the famous man is released from prison, he spends the last couple of years of his life in exile, in poverty, and eventually back in the arms of a male lover.


Who is at fault here?


*This is the very abridged story of author/playwright, Oscar Wilde.



Sherry Boykin

Sherry Boykin, the founder of Faith and Tales, is a storyteller and chronic believer in the power of faith narratives to change lives. She uses biblical and personal accounts to help women move beyond their obstacles, glean fresh perspectives on life, and to live differently as a result. Her experiences in urban and suburban ministries, Peruvian Amazon jungle missions, long-term singleness, marriage and family, and men's dorm-living shape her life and provide a colorful backdrop from which to share the Word of God. Sherry is the author of But-Kickers: Growing Your Faith Bigger Than Your But and she has been interviewed for articles in Time, The New York Times, and Better Homes and Gardens.

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