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Is God a Two-Timer?

“For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name.” (Isaiah 54:5)

 

 

Will you marry me?

There it was, plain as day.  A verse so steeped in nuptial goodness I could hardly read it without a swatch of tulle hanging from my head–the verse that encouraged me to have an impromptu wedding ceremony as I flew to the Peruvian Amazon for the first time. (more…)

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Why I’m Still Married and What That Could Mean for You: Valentine’s Day edition

Today is the 14th anniversary of my husband singing me Steven Curtis Chapman’s, “I Will Be Here,” and asking the greatest rhetorical question imaginable: “Will you marry me?”

 

 

He says I never actually answered him, and I say attitude, body language, and decibel level should have been enough. On that day I still had a lot to learn about Ted the Grace-a-holic-I Have to Pass Every Possible Scenario Through My Mind Before Responding-Boykin. I’m amazed at how much some good, sistah-ly advice did for me in those early years. Maybe it will do the same for you. (more…)

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Honest Abe, Geico, and How You Can Know if You’re Ready for Marriage

A couple of years ago my husband and I saw a commercial for Geico brand auto insurance which dramatizes a supposed conversation between Abraham Lincoln and his wife.  A short, rotund Mary Todd Lincoln primps in front of a mirror, straightens and examines her high-neck, lace-cuffed, derriere-spreading black and white taffeta dress from different angles, and then asks that dreaded question:

“Honey, does this dress make my backside look big?” (more…)

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Burning the Pilato: What a Peruvian tradition can show you about your toughest obstacles

An annual tradition in the Peruvian Amazon is the burning of “pilatos”– homemade, life-size dolls that resemble the makers of the pilatos, or that resemble public figures.  (more…)

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Doing What You Hate, and Loving It in the End: What happens when you put on your big-girl Spanks

Doing what completely repulses you can bring new understanding to the monumental work of Christ. See how in my latest article, Taking the Cup, in Catapult Magazine. 

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