Just visualize this true story as you read it aloud:
A famous man lives a double life. While married with two children, he falls in love with a younger man and enters into a sexual relationship with him.
She shared her place on stage with a gleaming spotlight and flinched when a close-up of her face on a giant, tri-fold screen invaded her space even more. She cleared her throat, then shifted from her left foot to her right. She fumbled her words, then took the plunge–like a polliwog swimmer on her first attempt at diving. Continue reading “The Right Response: Christian teens embrace peer struggling with homosexuality”
Ever been afraid of telling it like it is? Afraid of telling the truth because the would-be recipient was older, more experienced, or somehow more important than you were? After all, the old are supposed to lead the young, right? I know the feeling well, but one day God squeezed it out of me in a way that left his fingerprints all over me.
My grandfather, Theodore Roosevelt Williams, a once robust man with a hearty, contagious laugh, lay stretched out in comatose silence in his hospital bed, wearing an oversized, steel blue gown that hung sloppily off his skeletal torso. The dingy, white piping around the top was tied loosely in a bow that rested on his emaciated neck. He was unrecognizable, and that devastated me.
I was used to seeing Grandpop sitting comfortably in a recliner, telling funny stories about working with his brothers down at the Brooklyn waterfront. I wanted to hear him laugh again. I wanted him to bet me that he could eat a whole loaf of Profile bread in one sitting, without once forgetting to dunk a piece in his coffee. I wanted to see him sharpen his razor on a leather barber’s strap and slick his hair back with Vitalis. I wanted him to give me a roll of peppermint lifesavers and send me on my way, as he did every single time I saw him. I wanted to make him another Father’s Day card, as I had done every year since first grade when my father died.
But there he lay in a coma, so lifeless. I felt unprepared for all this. I had been away at college, and so had not seen his gradual decline in weight and wellness. Someone told me that I should talk to him, because there was a good chance that he could hear me, even if he didn’t respond. Well, I thought, I certainly have plenty I could tell him. I had gotten saved—that he already knew, but the spiritual growth, the sense of being led to the mission field—that would have truly excited him. But the words never came. I could have gone step-by-step through the gospel, making sure he had no doubts as to how to be saved, but I said nothing. I sat there paralyzed in silence, apparently overcome by this “imposter” in my grandfather’s bed, with tubes in his nose, and an IV in his arm.
Instead of saying something, I glanced out the window, and I saw one of my cousins entering the hospital. I didn’t want to be seen as emotionally overcome as I was, so I decided it was time for me to leave. About a week later, when I was back at school, my mother called to say that Grandpop had passed away. My heart broke into a thousand pieces. Somehow, I thought God would have spared him. I wasn’t even sure if I felt that way because I truly wanted him well, or because I truly wanted another shot at doing what I was too cowardly to do when I saw him in person.
What was wrong with me? This was my Grandpop. I held the keys to the kingdom, and was too afraid to open my mouth—And what was I afraid of? Of being laughed at? Of someone else overhearing me? Of losing my position as “favorite” granddaughter because I dared to wonder whether or not he really did know Christ as Savior? Would God really let him go to hell because I didn’t have the courage to speak up? So then, I was preparing to go to the ends of the earth to share the gospel, but not to Downstate Medical Center in Brooklyn? Not to my own grandfather?
At his funeral, I realized I had never allowed myself to consider Grandpop’s eventual death. How I wished I could relive that day in the hospital, that I could open my mouth and say what the redeemed of the Lord say. I needed the Lord to comfort my heart in a way that no one else could at that time. I asked Him for a verse, and He gave me Mark 7:37: “…He does all things well…” I’ve always taken that to mean: Even when Sherry disappoints, even when Sherry fails miserably,…He does all things well.
SOMEONE, help me with this–please! Just how responsible are women for maintaining the sexual purity of men? If you’ve ever been part of an institution that requires its girls or women to present themselves as if they’ve shopped at the mercantile and spruced up at the apothecary, you know what I mean. Continue reading “A Call to Biblical Manhood: Whose job is it to keep your pants up?”
On Sunday we finished our BUT-Kickers seminar with one last look at “Relationships in the Wild.” And after six weeks of hanging out in the Book of Judges I was ashamed to admit I was still outraged over the heinous, unbridled acts of depravity found in its pages. Continue reading “Relationships in The Wild: BUT-Kickers seminar, week 6”
This week we discussed “Relationships in The Wild,” the only fitting name I could think of to describe the resolute craziness of events in Judges, chapter 19. Continue reading “Relationships in The Wild: BUT-Kickers seminar, week 5”
Today we started a six-week But-Kickers seminar with a look at what happens when your life is shaken up by something you had nothing to do with. Perhaps you were not even present when the pivotal event occurred, yet you find yourself knee-deep in tragedy with no way out. Feel free to join us here if you can’t make the seminars in person. Continue reading “When It’s Not Your Fault but You Pay the Price: But-Kickers seminar, week 1”
Just recently on a clip from The Taste, a reality show based on a cooking competition, I heard Chef/Author Anthony Bourdain say that a dish served to him tasted like it had been prepared by someone who had never had sex. Continue reading “Why Marriage is not for Virgins”
“For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name.” (Isaiah 54:5)
Will you marry me?
There it was, plain as day. A verse so steeped in nuptial goodness I could hardly read it without a swatch of tulle hanging from my head–the verse that encouraged me to have an impromptu wedding ceremony as I flew to the Peruvian Amazon for the first time. Continue reading “Is God a Two-Timer?”
Today is the 14th anniversary of my husband singing me Steven Curtis Chapman’s, “I Will Be Here,” and asking the greatest rhetorical question imaginable: “Will you marry me?”
He says I never actually answered him, and I say attitude, body language, and decibel level should have been enough. On that day I still had a lot to learn about Ted the Grace-a-holic-I Have to Pass Every Possible Scenario Through My Mind Before Responding-Boykin. I’m amazed at how much some good, sistah-ly advice did for me in those early years. Maybe it will do the same for you. Continue reading “Why I’m Still Married and What That Could Mean for You: Valentine’s Day edition”